Katy Perry once said of love that if ‘It’s not like the movies, that’s how it should be’, and she isn’t alone in thinking that. As romantic movies continue to melt our hearts, more and more of us are seeking a big-screen romance. And, a surprising number of us leave our relationships when that’s not what we get.
In truth, though, movie romance isn’t real and, if it were, it would probably look more like Revolutionary Road than Titanic. So, if you’re worried that your relationship doesn’t look like an on-screen sweeping romance right now, then keep on reading to find out why that could actually be a good thing.
# 1 – You are More Than Your Relationship
We’re going to start with perhaps the most important point of this entire article – you are more than your relationship. And, guess what? You really can’t say the same thing about the characters in your favorite rom-com. Every element of their stories has been uniquely created towards the dream relationship. Aside from not being reality, dedicating yourself to your partner 100% in reality would surely do more harm than good.
That’s not to say you can’t still do cute onscreen things like go for romantic dates or even play around with a ship name generator to get those movie couple vibes. It just means that you also need to make room for real life considerations like friendships that don’t just revolve around conversations about your relationship, and a career that fulfills you fully, rather than just conveniently putting you in your partner’s path.
# 2 – Relationship Montages Aren’t Real Life
Who doesn’t love a movie relationship montage? The kisses, the swooning, and oh, those moments where he dabs ice cream on her nose. But movie montages aren’t real life. In fact, they’re not even close.
The simple fact is that real couples can’t be cute all of the time, and if they were, they wouldn’t be good couples at all. That’s because real relationships aren’t built solely on ice cream and laughter. A real, solid relationship is all about asking important questions, working through disagreements, and perfecting all of the important things that make those special ‘montage moments’ actually mean something.
# 3 – Heady Love Can’t Last Forever
One of the main problems with movie romances is the fact that they never quite settle. Throughout the film, we follow those tempestuous first months or years, and then the film ends when they finally get together. This can give the false impression that real romance is all about those heady, intoxicating early feelings. But that’s simply not the case.
In fact, heady love can be a hard thing to manage, filled with high emotions and the inevitable misunderstandings that come with them. That makes for great viewing, but you’ll want to avoid it in place of real relationships that feel steady and reassuring, as much as they give you butterflies.
So, next time you doubt your love, remember – if it’s not like the movies, maybe that’s how it should be!
