College is a time of learning, growing, meeting new people, and for many, a time of falling in love. While a lot of college students use this time to date various people and just have fun, sometimes a little magic happens and you meet the person you’ve always dreamed of.
But how can you know if your college relationship is one that’s built to last, or if it will fade away like so many others you’ve witnessed on campus? We’ve considered this for you, and put together a few ways to know if it’s forever.
You’ve Talked about the Future
Thinking about where you see yourself in five years isn’t something you should reserve for job interviews. Planning your future, or at least knowing roughly what you want out of life is a crucial thing to do in your college years. If you and your partner have had these conversations together and included one another in your plans, it’s a good sign that your relationship is going somewhere good.
Getting married is a big and exciting step for both young and older couples, but it’s a huge step and should be considered carefully. Kimberfire can help if you aren’t sure if you are ready to propose, and you’ll know in your heart if your partner is the one for you.
You Have Had Fights
Fighting might seem counterproductive in a relationship, but it’s normal and healthy to disagree on certain things. Constant bickering isn’t a good sign, but a fight once in a while is part of a strong relationship.
What really matters is how you both handle these fights. Getting through arguments (especially about serious matters) with your relationship intact is a good indication that you two know how to communicate with one another and work out compromises and disagreements. This is an important part of any long-term relationship!
You Want Similar Things
While we’ve said that it’s healthy to disagree on some things in a relationship, this is better applied to things like where to go for dinner. At the end of the day, you want your and your partner’s core values, beliefs and life aspirations to align, and you need to express what you want.
If you want kids and your partner doesn’t see themselves having children, this could pose serious issues in your future. If they are a homebody and your dream is to travel the world, this might impact your relationship too. Even things like differing religious beliefs can play a huge role in your compatibility. If these things don’t align, you might want to take a harder look at if your relationship is more fun or future-aligned.
You’ve Supported One Another
Showing your partner love and support during tough times is a cornerstone part of what a relationship should be. If you or your loved one have experienced a difficult life season during your relationship and you’ve been able to help one another through it, this is a good sign that you’ll be there for each other through thick and thin and all of life’s troubles.